Archive for August 16th, 2009

For further discussion on the topic of the “friends zone” see later posts “why girls put guys in the friend’s zone” and “the male friends issue clarified”

One of my daughters has asked me what to do if a guy she likes wants to talk to her about his relationships with other women.

I did a double take. “Has he ever done this before?”

“Yeah, sometimes.”

I was upset.  I mean, what this guy tells her about is not her fault, but I was suprised that this guy and she were still talking after he mentioned his interest in other women. This is an ironclad rule: (sorry, @BillCammack dating genius, but I do have a rule or two) and  if he is talking about other women, he is toast. Immediately and permanently. If he’s a player, he’s a player. He’s done, off the list, vamoose, whatever.

Guys who talk about other girls cannot be trusted.

How do I know this? It’s simple psychology. Guys think in one straight line, they are not multi-taskers. Guys who like you will be concentrating on you, not on other women they know. If he talks about other girls in your presence, you can be sure the doesn’t like you. As such, he is a threat to your status as The Desired Creature and must be removed from the sample set.

Am I making sense? Maybe not. The point is: you only want guys around you who like you. Guy who don’t like you you need to be thrown out of the tank. What then? Go meet some more people, and find someone who does like you. Or go it alone until you do. If you’re alone, at least there’s a chance you’ll meet someone. Hanging around with some guy who doesn’t like you, you never will.

As Ice Cube was told in the movie Are We There Yet, “The friend zone is for losers.” Sorry, but I call ‘em how I see ‘em, and on this one, that call is very clear.